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Why Some People Hate Being Alone

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It’s always surprising to me when I hear people say they hate being alone. Maybe it’s because I so passionately love my alone time. I crave it and get grumpy if I don’t get it consistently. My daily meditation practice has definitely deepened both my appreciation for solitude and my capacity to sit in my own presence. But it makes me wonder why some people dislike it so much?

One reason might be that being alone strips away distractions and with those distractions gone, we’re left face-to-face with ourselves. That can be deeply uncomfortable. In today’s fast-paced world, we’re trained to stay busy, stay connected, and avoid anything that feels even slightly uncomfortable. So when emotions like anxiety, sadness, guilt or restlessness surface, our instinct is to run - into work, into social media, into anything but solitude.

Feelings of Discomfort While Alone Aren’t Random

They’re signals. They are there for a reason often pointing to the very things within us that need attention, reflection, and healing. Ironically, what we avoid most, is usually what most needs to be looked at. These feelings are like little red flags, waving to get noticed, often quietly influencing areas of our lives we don’t even connect them to like relationship struggles, chronic stress, or physical health issues.

When we choose to sit with ourselves, not to fix or analyze but simply to be present, we create space for those buried emotions and patterns to surface. And in that space, something profound can happen: stuck energy begins to move. Old stories start to loosen their grip. We feel lighter, freer, more aligned. And it doesn’t have to be an ugly deep dive, it can simply be permission to release whatever is not serving our expansion. 

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When we choose to sit with ourselves, not to fix or analyze but simply to be present, we create space for those buried emotions and patterns to surface. And in that space, something profound can happen: stuck energy begins to move. Old stories start to loosen their grip. We feel lighter, freer, more aligned. And it doesn’t have to be an ugly deep dive, it can simply be permission to release whatever is not serving our expansion. 

So decide you’re going to love being alone. That single shift in mindset can create a powerful energetic ripple. It signals to your system that you’re safe with yourself. And in that safety, what’s been buried can rise, be seen, and finally be released. It’s not always comfortable, but it is always worth it.

In harmony,
~Delphine

Delphine's Coaching Segment on Isolation

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